As teens, we often spent much of our time with our friends. It was easy to focus on our friends because our friends were at the center of our world. As we get older, however, things change. We have jobs, families, and other responsibilities. Our time is more limited, and most adults have less time to spend with friends.
Even still, there may be times when, although we are spending less actual time with friends, we may still need to give them some space. We have all been or have had high maintenance friends at one point or another. And although we may love our high maintenance friends, they can be very demanding. They can try to take control of a situation, change its direction, or force people to do things they don’t want. They may seek constant attention, company, or approval. They can make demands on your time that you don’t have. You may love them, but in the end, they bring little or no value to the friendship, and if the demands are too high, the friendship can end abruptly.
Low maintenance friends are easy to be around. You get together and have a good time, and that’s it. There is no bickering or arguing – everything is easy. Here are some ways to be a low maintenance friend:
Understand that everyone is the center of their own universe. In other words, their priorities, schedule, and ideas are just as important to them as yours are to you. Getting angry at them or making demands they don’t want to meet can easily hurt a friendship.
When someone says now is not a good time, it’s not a good time. If someone doesn’t want to see you, doesn’t want company, doesn’t want to talk – it isn’t a good time for them. Forcing your way in will only make them frustrated or maybe even angry. Give people their space.
Be the bigger person. You don’t need to win every discussion. What is more important - going to the restaurant of your choice or the fact that you are getting together? Sometimes, by just letting someone else have their way, you make them happy. Making other people happy will make you happy also.
Don’t interrogate people when you don’t get your way. They shouldn’t have to justify why they want to or don’t want to do something. Sometimes people use this method to back people into a corner to prove they are wrong. If you are looking for understanding, ask at another time; otherwise, let it go.
Stop trying to force people to do things for you or do things your way. A better way is to ask them what would work for them. Perhaps they have an idea that would work for you both.
In the end, the only thing you can control is yourself. By accepting people and their differences, you will enjoy better, happier friendships.
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